I hear your agony as you try to make
sense, of all that seems so senseless.
The devastation of being told that you
have a brain injury, is an enormous loss.
It is so unacceptable and so hard to
comprehend, that it seems unendurable.
In light of this revelation you certainly
have a right to your anger, fury and grief.
Life is a series of upsets, but nothing can
prepare us for the tragic loss of ourselves.
Self is the part of us that is our personality,
the part that makes us different from all
others. This is the part of our loss that so
many without head injuries do not realize.
It is not necessarily that things are harder
now, it is that we have changed forever.
To accept is to admit affirmatively to
something that cannot possibly be denied.
Fate is defined as the supposed force,
principles, or power that predetermines
events. This means that fate cannot be changed.
But the manner in which we select to survive
fate can be. We can stay angry and choose to be
miserable the rest of our lives. However, fate still
rules, and the only control left for us is the way
we select to handle what fate has thrown our way.
No amount of loss, can take away the true beauty
found in life. All tragedy gets easier to bear with time.
All internal pain does ease with the passing of time.
But the way you handle what fate has thrown your way
is totally up to you, and a matter of your personal choice.
No one can force acceptance on someone else for the
things that cannot be changed. This is an individual choice.
The birds don’t stop singing, no matter how devastating
the tragedy. The rivers don’t quit flowing no matter how
great a loss someone experiences. You see life continues
to go on regardless of what catastrophe happens. The sun
continues to shine, the cries of new-born babies continue
to bring joy. The flowers continue to bloom in all their
beautiful glory. The only real decision is whether you are
courageous enough to go forward, even with an unfortunate
tragedy, that has changed life as you once knew it.
by: Debbie M. Wilson